We all know at least one person who seems to have their life together—they don’t seem to stress over much, they tend to get what they want, and most of all seem genuinely happy. You’ve probably wondered, “what do they have that I don’t?” and the answer is simple: they are their own boss. I don’t mean in the sense that they have their own business and sign their own paychecks. What I mean is they know what it takes to take control of life, rather than let the ups and downs of life control them. Sound like an appealing lifestyle? You bet it does. So how do you get to that point? Here are some tips of how you can become the boss of your own life!

Under Promise and Over Deliver– It sounds easy, but the trick here to make sure your actions speak volumes louder than your words. If your boss sets a deadline, why not get it done early and to your boss’s delight send it early? There are no words involved here—just actions. Don’t say you are going to come into the office at 8am. Just do it! Don’t ask if you can bring dinner home for your spouse—call them on the way home and tell them you are bringing food home with you!

Make Your Word Mean Something– Here is where the talking comes in. It’s a tough one because you have to not only be honest with others, but yourself. When you commit to something verbally, you just have to follow through with it. Over time, people will begin to see you as someone reliable, honest, and someone they can count on. If you are constantly going back on things you said you would do, it can hurt your friends, family, and even your job. When you are constantly cancelling on people you make yourself known to be unreliable, and when people see you as unreliable it’s tough to get anywhere when your word does actually mean something.

Be Honest With Yourself, and Others– this is one of the basics of life right? Your parents teach it to you from the time you’re in diapers. But it’s crucial you are honest with yourself—especially during times when you don’t really want to be. Maybe you know you need to save money for an obligation coming up, but you also really want to go on a shopping trip. Be honest with yourself! It will pay off in the long run. Because like what Zija CEO Ryan Palmer says, “Anything that comes at you fast and easy will leave you the same way.”

Stop Apologizing for Everything– there are times when it’s completely appropriate to apologize to someone, but today we say it so much the word has almost lost its meaning. Save “sorry” for when it really counts and when you really are feeling sorry. If your kid accidentally hits a baseball through your neighbor’s window and you are truly feeling sorry, that’s a great time to say it! If you are late to work because you slept in, then went through the drive thru for breakfast, you probably aren’t feeling that sorry to be late.

Take Time to Take Care of Yourself– everyone has a busy schedule and can get caught up in everything that they forget to check-in with themselves. Take time to evaluate how you are feeling emotionally and physically, and listen to what your body is telling you. It could be telling you it needs a break from the gym, or that it needs higher quality foods. Be sure to buy yourself something nice once in a while because you deserve it!